Going Over His Knee...

Mmm… There just seems to be something delicious about this very notion – tasty, eh? On blogs and even on twitter, I’m hearing so much more about women (men too) who honestly want to have spankings as an everyday part of their life. And we’re not just talking about during heated moments of passion either. There seems to be an explosion of stories revolving around spanking and more and more blogs every day. Not only are these from writers who are enjoying the genre and readers who crave, but also from real couples who practice. What in the world do you think of this growing aspect of relationships and is this new?

Well, of course domestic discipline isn’t new. You can Google and find this going back centuries. Many of us who have simply spoken to our grandparents realize there was a time when men were truly in charge of the household, giving the orders to both children and their wives. They were the ones who made the major decisions for the household and we certainly know children were spanked back then. What about their wives? For any of you who have seen and hopefully enjoyed any of my blogs before, you’ve read my posts about Head of Household and Domestic Discipline as its coming back in fashion. Or is it really? The answer might not be so simple. But the whys couple are considering this for me is not only easier to grasp but also perhaps necessary. Now you might ask me why.

It’s a fact so many relationships end in divorce and between the small bouts of bickering to the huge fights, sometimes even physical, both parties in the relationship want to be in control. In charge of the situation and will argue at times for the sake of argument. Now what does that really accomplish? My goodness, there are enough country songs written about this very concept to hear for a solid year. Being involved is tough these days.  Then again, is it really any tougher than it was thirty or fifty years ago? Perhaps more complex in certain aspects, but if you think about it, our ability to “deal” is relative to what we’re used to.

There are so many societies and other countries where the man is still in charge. Period. There is no question nor will there ever be. In America, we have truly relegated to equal parties. I’m not in any way suggesting we change our ways completely. I want to be able to make choices in my life and have the same benefits in professions. But… As I’m writing a piece about domestic discipline in which a couple has tried everything else, including counseling, to bring their relationship back on track, I’ve talked to many women about the concept. Up to a few years ago women seemed to shy away from either talking about or certainly admitting they were in this kind of relationship or wanted to be. Some people who’ve never thought about this are certain to scoff at the idea.

Who would want to be told what to do and then punished if they went against the rules? What woman wants to be texted at work and told in no uncertain circumstances she’s going to be punished when he arrives home from work. Then to be given strict instructions about standing naked in the corner for his arrival, or just that she’s to be waiting with a hairbrush at her side for his return seems out of the question. Right? But for some of you, are you tingling with the very thought? Are you longing to be able to tell your boyfriend or mate you wish he could punish you at times? There are more women (and again, men too) craving this.

People often ask why in the world someone would submit to another in a D/s relationship – either as a submissive or a slave. There are various reasons including an innate need. Submissives know they long to please someone else, no matter what is asked. Those involved in a DD relationship understand harmony in the household would be better suited is they gave up certain levels of control and agreed to being punished as necessary.

For a reader, this is one of the last few taboos. Fifty Shades of Gray certainly opened some eyes, but for many women the very aspect of BDSM is too much, but spanking and being disciplined something else. BTW – Fifty Shades truly isn’t BDSM, nor is it anything but a flavor of D/s, but the reader and the movie goer will get a decent idea regarding the concept. For so many women I’ve talked to, they so want a man in charge in the bedroom and I do think it’s bleeding itself over into more than just fuzzy handcuffs and a slap on the ass. More people view all my spanking blogs than anything else. The fear and/or desire of the unknown? Mm… I think it’s a need we all have, almost instinct to let go and atone for our sins. We’ve all been that scared little kid, knowing they broke the rules and was going to be punished. We grew up into people (at least those of us with a conscience) who hated when we did something wrong or made someone we care about cry or be disappointed with us.

Being disciplined for a wrong doing allows us to feel better and guilt free – much like going to a priest. I’m in several rooms as a writer on Facebook, including one devoted to spanking stories, and it’s amazing the conversations generated. I love hearing the different takes from authors and how they’re inserting spanking in various degrees. Oddly enough, when I looked at my own works I realized I had some form of spanking in a significant portion. As I move into writing my Domestic Discipline trilogy, I’ll be eager to see what people think and how they react. Another guilty pleasure perhaps?

Let me know what you think – do you currently practice for simply fun in the bedroom or more? Would you consider this in your relationship as a permanent method of harmony? Do you feel free enough to talk with your significant other? Hmm… I hope you’ve enjoyed and remember, there are a lot of wonderful spanking stories out there.

Kisses   xxx

Cassandre