I’m sitting here this morning getting ready to leave for a conference – Mysticon in Roanoke VA. I’ve been to this one before and it’s a blast for so many reasons. Well, attended, I now have friends who share the good times, camaraderie, and yes wickedness. As you can imagine, we have a little fun while we share being on panels, talking to readers and other writers about writing in every aspect. One of the truly fun things about this conference is I get to talk dirty. Yep. I get to enjoy giving readers an inside to alternative lifestyles and the use of sex toys, writing about BDSM and spankings, Domestic Discipline and kink clubs. Sounds well kinky right? Trust me, it’s a hoot. So I got to thinking about the main subject people keep talking about lately – discipline. Whether you use spankings or something else in BDSM, readers are drawn to the aspect. Is it because it’s still a bit taboo? Hmmm…or just because it’s sexy as hell and very kinky? Well a little of both I think.
If you are new to my blog you’ll quickly learn I write highly erotic books that deal with all aspects of passion including BDSM, voyeurism, public display, ménage and same sex. Included of course are more vanilla aspects of kink including spanking. Now, probably all of us have swatted our partner a time or two on their ass during a heated moment but what if you craved more? What if the very thought of being disciplined set your soul on fire and sent quivers dancing into down your spine? What if the anticipation of him coming home, expecting you to be in position on the edge of the bed, naked and waiting for exactly what you crave forces trickles down your spine? Hmmm…I think the thought is very tasty. Spanking and the use of floggers, whips, canes, spoons, over the knee with his or her hand, paddles, tarses – and a bazillion other implements can be used is just plain fun.
Have you ever hidden these tastes from your partner and yet take time to find blogs on line and read about every aspect of enjoying a taste of something that some might consider a heightened level of kink? Then again, have you ever written either a poem or a naughty story that includes being in a relationship where the man is truly the head of the house providing a level of discipline when needed? There are women and certainly some men that desire such a relationship and go along routes to try and find someone that understands their needs because mainstream society finds this level of behavior a bit out of the ordinary. Then some long to tell their partner what they crave.
For those that desire more than a subtle slap, it’s perhaps difficult to tell our partners that we long for them to take control and issue discipline on more than just an occasional basis. And there are some that enjoy the lifestyle of maintenance spankings once or twice a week and punishment spankings when necessary and the naughty girls or boys sometimes misbehave on purpose. What kind of spankings are we talking about? Sometimes the preferred method is over the knee and usually with a bare bottom. For some reason having your man hold you down while his hand strikes your ass over and over again until you whimper and beg him to stop seems like the total moment of submission to his control as head of the household.
There are others that prefer an all fours position to enable the implement to be swung at just the right speed. Many couples are very creative in their tools and not only does their collection include belts and paddles, but spoons, spatulas and floggers as well. Others also like canes and even the use of switches. Can you imagine watching him cut a very green twig and you know it’s going to strike your naked ass soon enough and your cunt clenches in delicious anticipation?
Of course for some this goes beyond just needing to be spanked for discipline. Some couples share a more D & S lifestyle in which this turns into bondage as well has punishment and shared pleasure. Some couples really kink up their lifestyle adding everything from selecting the perfect implement together – you’d be surprised how creative couples get when they try and find a new very hard method of discipline. Some even frequent flea markets and yard sales touching and stoking spoons and paddles. From floggers to belts, whips to paddles and the much preferred wooden hairbrush, there are many creative ways to spank your partner. Generally these tools are kept in a special place when the HOH (head of household) will determine what is going to be used and when. It’s that delicious moment of anticipation for the spankee that creates tingles and fear and joy. Then again your man might make you remove his belt just before he uses it. Imagine your feelings…
Now there are also games that I have seen couples use and they play a game actually with cards and other things. I know it sounds crazy but I happened on this one blog site and it was very explicit about the use of the traditional 21. So me being me, I wrote a sexy piece on it called Spankdown. I’ve had a lot of comments on this one and reviewers aren’t quite certain how to take it. They think my heroine gets too many spanks. Well, I think it depends on whether you’re into the lifestyle or not.
Here’s the premise. What if you made it a game of cards and depending on what’s on the cards you get that number of whips and the implement? I came upon a passing on a site I belong to – and yes, I search many different sites to try and learn about what people crave in a less vanilla relationship. Evidently this card game is fairly well known. I decided I’d combine it into a story about a female professor who held her cravings for being disciplined from everyone that knows her and add in a mix of hot college men that crave teach. That one really was my first piece on highlighting spanking and the character is so popular I’m going to be bringing a little collection about something my sexy professor does in her down time. But here’s the blurb. See what you think.
Victoria Miller is a professor at one of the most prestigious schools in the country. She’s also the creator of several adult blogs about spanking and BDSM. Craving a man that can understand her kinky needs, she settles for enjoying her passion through her writings, but she admires one hot college student, Drake Myers. The God like blond fuels her every night fantasies, but he is completely untouchable. Or so she believes.
Stumbling upon her blogs by accident, Drake decides to turn up the heat between them. He adores the voluptuous red-headed vixen and enlists the help of a college buddy, developing a kinky plan to have her take a tumble with him in bed and perhaps more. As he begins sending her secret poems, indulging in her need to be dominated, he is unable to resist her and one day they enter into a wicked tryst smack in the middle of her office. The game still yet to be played out, he threatens to expose her secret. And just as he decides to stop his nefarious rouse, she turns the tables.
So – what do you think – are you ready to try something very naughty? Take a walk on the wild side and consider your inner naughty girl or boy. You might be surprised what you want.
Well, my personal opinion is we all NEED a good spanking every once in awhile. I can’t wait to get to the conference and share my ahem solid, traditional view. Yeah right – but they are growing in popularity. If you’re around Roanoke – stop by and see me at the Holiday Inn Tanglewood. We’re planning on having a great and very kinky time.