PUNISHMENT…HOW MUCH IS TOO MUCH?

Benjamin Russell, a very talented writer and fabulous friend of mine, are writing a sexy flash book together that really started out as a story arc of several flash fiction pieces. The events in this flash book grew from multiple back and forth exchanges, comments across several blogs and posts on our respective Facebook fan pages. So he and I also put this piece together today to bring you some ofour combined thoughts.

We’ve been writing a lot about the characters Jessie and Luke in On Becoming His –. a story  about a woman’s very emotional journey as she enters into a D/s lifestyle. We are in the process of planning the second book of the series and realized these flash pieces speak to some of the challenges for them both. Challenges that were vital for the couple to go through in their continuing journey.  Our flash book Lessons Learned was developed because of this realization. We should have the book live for you in a week or so.  It’s a very in depth look at a rather harsh punishment Luke feels he’s forced or required to implement on a recalcitrant Jessie.

Keep in mind Luke already is a fairly strict disciplinarian. Still Jessie accepts every punishment without question, as she is learning (keep in mind I say learning) to be more and more devoted to him. Devotion is a subject we’ve talked about a little bit before. The concept is greater than just love. It’s giving all of yourself over to a person in a different manner and utterly needing to please the other person – without question. Your entire being must please your Dom and you are devastated when you can’t. Jessie hungers to become completely devoted, as much as Luke does for her to feel that way. Luke is giving Jessie his complete acceptance of all her, no judgements, no ridicule of her faults or her deepest, darkest desires.

Jessie remains willful at times and Luke struggles with his levels of patience. Finally, a particular incident stretched his confidence in her and he knew he needed to grab her attention in an entirely different manner. Hence, Lessons Learned.

Benjamin and I continue to have frank, intense conversations about the lifestyle in learning for the book and I can tell you we have had some doozies. From the concept of control to the figuring out how the rules are handled, they have been in depth. We want to make certain we highlight the very intricate lifestyle to the best of our abilities. This isn’t about kink. This is about trust and control and ownership and patience and understanding – and devotion. Control is one aspect in every D/s relationship. While some subs can or will tell you their Sir has control over them and they completely allow that to happen, there are times the sub pushes back. Sometimes it’s conscious but other times it’s either in a sense coerced or innate.

So yesterday Benjamin and I posed a question to our lovely friends on Facebook. Some of our Facebook friends know, write about or live in the lifestyle. We truly wanted to know – what punishment did they believe would be the harshest imposed on a submissive for a serious infraction? We’re not talking being bratty or opinionated or even being slightly willful. This is about something that is so difficult and trying, the Dom is questioning his methodology at minimum.

Here are some very fascinating answers and they are by no means the only ones we received. First of all, I want to thank everyone who gave us their thoughts. We very much appreciate the time and the frank words.

“Definitely taking away her collar. Banish her to her room for awhile. No interaction, communication. Silence until He deems her punishment over.”  Nichelle Gregory

“Banishment with no chance of redemption, of course. A lost collar can be regained, but to be forever barred from seeing the one who gives life meaning. . . Devastating”  Sessha Batto

“For those subs who misbehave, hoping to be punished more by another would be giving in to what she may truly desire, where taking away her collar and ignoring her for a week or two could prove to be a more powerful story line!! I stand corrected…is that because I might misbehave for that reason? *wicked laugh* The Boss would more than agree!”   Tonya Kinzer

“Short of taking the collar away completely, perhaps returning her to the training collar, and removing her privilege of addressing or being addressed by Him as she normally would (having to call Him Sir instead of Master, being called sub instead of His, or other terms of affection). And not allowing her to serve Him as she normally did. Very formal, perhaps some distance emotionally. But the worst part, the wait to hear what Master chose her punishment to be. And the thought that He would be going out without her, being seen without His property at His feet. Only when she realized that her misbehavior and unruliness reflected poorly on Him would she be ready, I think, to be graced once more with His collar again and be seen in public as His. “ VN Dare

My, a wonderful range of answers and there were more. With every D/s couple they enter into a contract of sorts that involve not only rules, but also basic expectations for the Dom and the sub. Once they are finalized the sub is expected to follow the rules and he or she will know the majority of the consequences if they disobey. For those reading this piece, including the comments, you might be thinking NO WAY. But you must remember this is an alternative lifestyle. This is not something two people enter into without knowing all the aspects, concerns, fears, worries, and so much more. Punishment is part of the aspect just as the sub fears disappointing her Dom.

That is truly the worst punishment for a submissive – disappointment. That for me is my answer. Taking the collar, Jessie would hate and I would hate, but the look of true disappointment in his eyes and knowing that my behavior absolutely changed his view of me – I could not look myself in the mirror. Just some food for thought and below is the synopsis for the upcoming flash book – On Becoming His – Lessons Learned. Benjamin and I hope you enjoy. Please give us your thoughts. What in your opinion would be the worst and why? And what could he or she do to make up for the level of disappointment?

Thanks so much and hope you enjoyed.

Kisses   xxx

Cassandre and thank you so much Sir Benjamin.

ON BECOMING HIS – LESSONS LEARNED

Jezebel Waters and Luke Brennan entered into a D/s life together, exploring and learning the sacred concepts of trust, love, understanding, willingness to please, submission and utter devotion. Their journey was ongoing and in her mind, she’d truly embraced every aspect, including control — his control. Luke was a strict disciplinarian but also a passionate mate, who gave her his entire heart, soul and most importantly – his total acceptance of all of her. In turn, she was required to give him every aspect of herself, no matter what he asked. There were challenges along the way and while Jessie was committed to obeying, she was after all, willful.

Share the story of Jessie and Luke as they continue on an emotional journey together. For Jessie she must delve deep into her psyche, not only beginning to understand her willingness to become Luke’s submissive in every way. She also must comprehend exactly what the new beginning would entail — trust and control. For Luke, he must learn to balance his need to have devotion and obedience with patience. Jessie’s struggles to embrace every aspect of the lifestyle, challenges him to understand and accept there will be rough patches along the way.

During one moment of weakness, her devotion to him is brought into question and in turn, Luke is forced to issue the ultimate in punishments. Join a flash fiction read telling the tears and frustrations both Luke and Jessie share as she begins to regain his trust and his confidence in her understanding of his needs.

On Becoming His, the first in the trilogy series, introduces you to Jessie and Luke. On Becoming Her Sir, will further delve into their exploration of the lifestyle and the challenges they both must face, both personally and together as a couple. Can they survive the pitfalls to obtain what few ever achieve, the most committed and very powerful of relationships? Only their continued journey will tell…

The journey will never end. It is only the beginning…

PURCHASE LINK FOR ON BECOMING HIS

http://www.amazon.com/On-Becoming-His-ebook/dp/B00830WDC2/

 

 

 

 

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Cassandre Dayne is the pseudo for the best selling author of romantic suspense and thrillers
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6 Responses to PUNISHMENT…HOW MUCH IS TOO MUCH?

  1. Nikki Prince says:

    I totally loved this. Thank you for allowing us to have some interaction!

    Nikki

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  2. Tonya Kinzer says:

    Hey you two!! Wishing you all the success you deserve with your books on the Dom/sub relationship! Thanks for opening up your discussion for us! Muah!

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  3. Cass, I agree, seeing the disappointment in his eyes would be the absolute worst, that coupled with his lack of attention…devastating. Thank you so much for including my comment in your blog and offering up juicy questions for all of us to discuss!

    xoxo,

    Nichelle

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  4. Cassandre, I had mentioned taking away the collar and I still agree that it is severe. But I also have thought about this and think that knowing someone is so disappointed in me would hurt so much. I never want to disappoint the ones I love, and knowing I have done something to make them feel that way kills me. I know we all make mistakes and even in a D/s you learn and push, and make mistakes. This kind of relationship is so deep and so different. It is very intense since you are giving up such a deeper self to another person, giving up control. It takes time to fully grasp it all and get to a point where maybe our old self doesn’t show up challenging things. You can punish but one must get to the root of why someone needed to be punished so severe. What cause them to disappoint someone so much where such severe punishment is needed. I really can’t wait to read this latest book. Congrats to you both on such an amazing story.

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