I know — that’s the kind of question that gets you all hot and bothered in the morning, isn’t it? Well the sexy answer is – yes, Yes, YES! But… Do I do everything I write about? Since there is nothing I generally don’t write about in erotic, if I did then I’d have no time to write. A girl can dream however. I had the joy of hosting a new radio show about all things rather edgy. The Edge is about artists who take their works to a rather dark and edgy side. I love taking mine to the extreme and my personal choices in sex, kink, music, romance, books and movies is also getting darker. I love when you have a slice of danger, rather real or perceived, around what you’re doing. I had a blast with Christian Jensen, my writing partner and one edgy man himself. I think that’s why I love to write about BDSM.
In writing the sexy genre, is this just about the imagination? Hmm… Well, I do have a very vivid one and I dream in color, but the truth is you have to do a hell of a lot of reading, research, writing and re-writing and thinking in order to be able to pull of many aspects of what you’re putting down on paper. Sometimes this includes trying some sexy things out. I do have a wicked mind. Right? Think a collection of toys in one oversized drawer and lots of batteries for on. Okay before you go pulling out a chair and take down notes to remind me of just how wicked I am later, let me tell you what I mean. First of all do I love passion and sex? If I have to really give you that answer then I’m terrified for you. Of course I do. I honestly think a hell of a lot of women get a damn bad name for not enjoying or craving sex. The truth is I do every day. I need a man with a huge appetite for all things passionate. But there is a lot more that goes into writing sexy stories.
Research is a wonderful tool and of course you can do so much simply by staying behind your computer and searching the Internet but honestly? You only get a very jaded view of what you’re looking at, no matter how informative you think the articles are. I’ve been doing more and more research on the edgier side of kink like intense flogging, fire cupping and electric stimulus LOL I’ve inserted a little of this in my stories but having never actually felt or seen the play, I’m not an expert. For those of who don’t know what I’m talking about – Google the Violent Wand as a method and you’ll see what I’m talking about.
I think the best method of learning is by talking to people in the lifestyle. Not meaning to criticize other writers because we’re all simply trying to learn our craft and hopefully have readers enjoy and BUY our books, BUT… The craze with BDSM is showing a springboard effect of writers jumping on the bandwagon genre. Hell, you guys know I love to write about a D/s relationship including aspects of BDSM, but I’ve talked many a time about how I have spent hours, day, months talking with those in the lifestyle as well as reading. When I see some of the books come out on how to be a good Dom etc. and the writer has never spoken with one I do cringe. That being said, again I am NO expert and try and learn more every day. Yes, the more I learn the more I want to.
I was laughing as the show ended last night because I realized I have a few kinky new twitter followers including many in the BDSM/Domestic Discipline worlds. But that’s honestly an honor for those who follow you. I write and tag my articles as appropriate and generally that’s one way folks find you in order to follow you. One would hope they actually look at what the person is doing before they follow so I think that’s a lovely gesture. Maybe, just maybe I’m getting it right.
I’ve been teased by my readers and friends, who say there’s nothing I don’t write about from aliens to vampires, ménage to BDSM, and they’re right. I love mixing it up with my writing. There’s nothing I won’t talk to you about or add to my books and why? Because no matter what you think, we’re all craving a little kink buried deep inside our souls. From the longing to be tied up to a powerful Dom wielding a flogger, or a pair of handcuffs slipped inside our Christmas stockings to a taste of voyeurism and public display – there’s something we long for. Me? Well, if I told you I’d have to tie you up… But you can imagine. In my stories I try and add reality with my fantasy and hopefully as a single person, couple or perhaps one involved in a polyamory or D/s relationship you’re going to get a little something new to spark your “tastes”. Just a few thoughts and hopefully you’ll grab your partner later and do something very kinky indeed.